Love or hate CharmDate, it’s still one of the best sources to find single Russian women.
As a Ukrainian woman in my mid-20s who spends her weekdays and weekends chatting with foreign men – most of whom are older than me – I hear this question from my friends and relatives way too often: “Why don’t you just date Ukrainian or Russian guys? There are plenty of them… and being in a long-distance relationship sucks, doesn’t it?”
And probably the second most popular question that I get: “There are so many perverts and weirdos on those Russian dating sites – aren’t you concerned for your safety and invasion of privacy?”
Well, honesty, I’m sick of these questions. To all my friends and relatives – and to whom it may concern – here’s my honest CharmDate review where I finally reveal the truth why so many Russian and Ukrainian girls are into online dating.
Why do I date foreigners?
Let’s get right into it. “Why don’t you just date local guys?”
The problem with local guys here in Ukraine or Russia is that most of them are unemployed, they prefer spending time with their mates – it involves booze, obviously – than spending time with their girlfriends. Needless to say, many of our local guys are unfaithful. I don’t know why, but seems like it runs in our men’s blood. To tell you the truth,
I’ve been in three serious committed relationships with three different local men. With one guy, I even thought we would get married… But oh well, then he cheated on me and it shattered my dreams. The old and boring story of a girl who had her hopes high. But that’s not the point.
The reason why I signed up on Charmdate.com – one of few reputable online dating sites for dating single Russian women – is plain and simple: I was fed up with my life here, relationship hardship, unfaithfulness, excessive drinking, and – sadly, but true – even domestic abuse, all of which I’ve experienced while dating Russian and Ukrainian men.
So YES, I am proud to say that I’m a Ukrainian woman who is using online dating to seek new relationship, and NO, not all women who sign up on dating sites to find foreign men are gold diggers. I don’t know about other women, but I sure as hell know why I’m here: I want to find love. Not the random hookups that you can usually have as a young, not-at-all-bad-looking girl. True love that lasts until our last breath.
Long-distance relationships: why they’re AWESOME
Many people say that online dating is bad because you have to maintain a long-distance relationship and you have to chat for months prior to finally meeting in person.
Well, you know what? In this context, online dating reminds me of the old times, when people used to send letters to one another, wait for months for them to get delivered, exchange poetry, fall in love using handwritten words and not even seeing each other’s faces other than in photographs.
CharmDate reminds of that good old correspondence between two single hearts who are falling in love with one another not because they got sexually aroused seeing you, but because they become obsessed with one another’s personality and want to take time getting to know each other. They want to know more about that person. That anticipation that builds up with every message. You get to the boiling point when you no longer can sit there and just WRITE, you want to see that person, you want to touch him/her. You want to feel that person’s presence NEAR you. That’s what I call falling in love.
And CharmDate allows you to feel all that. And unlike letter exchanges from centuries ago, today you can actually live chat with girls online! But it gets better: you can even have a Cam Chat using a webcam, see each other in real time, fool around together, drink wine simultaneously even though you’re hundreds of kilometers away from one another… How awesome is that?
Real-life dating sucks, DEAL with it!
If I had to choose between real-life dating and online dating, I’d choose the latter over and over again. You know why? Because when you meet someone at a bar or in the street, you never know if that man is just hitting on easy target and dump you as soon as he does. These relationships come with a short lifespan.
In the case of online dating, meanwhile, you get to see the real face of the man who is chatting with you. How many messages does he send you? Does he send you messages in the middle of the day or only after work? How often does he think about you? Does he ever spend Friday nights chatting with you ONLINE instead of spending weekends boozing and hitting on others girls at a local nightclub? These things matter and they can define either a real man or just another playboy who only cares about sleeping around with as many girls as possible.
I’d ignore you online if you made any of these mistakes
Okay, you’re probably wondering by now: Am I hot? Well, I wouldn’t brag about my looks – I’m not the one to judge myself – but I’d say that I get about 30 compliments about my looks online, and about 10 in real life.
What does it mean? It means that when it comes to speaking to girls, men online tend to be more brave as opposed to men in real life. Is this a bad thing? Not at all! Real-life conversations can be really awkward. Besides, most people are in a hurry and minding their own business – so when you get stopped in the middle of the street by someone asking for your number, don’t feel offended if we turn you down, because, dude, we have rough days, too!
To tell you the truth, I’ve chatted with many men on CharmDate, and I know what things attract women and how to score more points when it comes to online dating Russian women. I consider myself somewhat a woman with some life experience haha… so blow away the dust from your pen and start taking notes!
First of all, REALLY work on your dating profile before you start sending out messages to girls. Don’t be cocky on your profile – we don’t like that. No group photos – we aren’t here to play mind games. Be nice to all women, even those who ignore you or turn you down.
Above all, don’t make up stories about yourself and don’t lie about your height, weight, marital status, financial status and all those things that you think matter but they REALLY don’t!
Is CharmDate scam? Let’s be honest here…
I often hear people say: “Online dating is dangerous because of invasion of privacy and all that…” Well, I don’t know about other sites, but when I’m on CharmDate, I can sleep with a peaceful mind. The company seems to care about their users and they take extra measures to ensure that everyone feels safe and protected.
There was once a guy who kept asking questions that were way too personal and tried to find out where I live. I panicked and contacted customer service to report the guy. CharmDate’s customer services responded within minutes, which shows that the company takes safety of users seriously.
As for all those CharmDate scam reviews… I mean, really? Just because a woman ignored you online or turned down your request to send her nude pics doesn’t make her a fraud or fake. I’ve got this message many times: “Send me your nude pic so I know you aren’t fake.” Really, dude? Is that how you approach a girl?
No wonder that those guys never get responses, and you can only imagine what’s going on in their head: “They aren’t responding so they must be fake and all scammers!” That’s just nonsense!!
For those of you wondering if CharmDate girls are real – they are! At least I know I am 😛 and I’m looking for true love. My question is: are nice guys real? If you think CharmDate girls are scammers and fake, I think that good guys don’t exist anymore. Prove me wrong! The game begins…
On the path to true love…
On a more serious note, I know for a fact that just because we haven’t found true love yet doesn’t mean we will be forever alone. I’m sure that there is a life partner for everyone – and it takes time to find him or her.
And when you do, it doesn’t matter how many failed relationships you have had in your life or how many times your heart was broken into tiny pieces, all it matters is that all your decision lead to meeting THIS ONE person. So it’s totally worth it.
Keep your head up even if things don’t work out with someone – it means you weren’t meant to be together. Keep searching for YOUR person. He or she is there somewhere – you just need to find.
I haven’t found my true love on CharmDate yet, but I will do whatever it takes to find one.